Polygamy can end the hurt caused by husband's cheating ......and Islam
goes ahead to stipulate very strict equality in the treatment of wives.
If a
man cannot treat his wives equally, the Koran says he should have only
one. How practical can this be, without jealousy , envy and all the ills
associated with polygamy ?
One Muslim said how he couldn't see why in the
liberal 21st century must we live a lie in relationships? " And why do we
continue to maintain a facade that monogamy is a perfect institution,
when studies consistently reveal that most men admit to having affairs?
Monogamy is great, but it is clearly not for everybody. "
Islam
openly acknowledges this fact of human nature and stipulates a
regulatory framework for plural relations. But he noted modern Western
society,
suspicious of all things Islamic, fails to recognise the qualities of
Muslim marriage and family. When asked if they would accept Polyandrous
marriage ....they state that by its very nature polyandry creates an
overwhelming burden for a woman in long-term relationships.....really
than a man with 5 wives ?
In the Bible, 1n Matt. 19:4 we are told by Jesus that God created one
“male and one female” and joined them in marriage. Mark 10:6-8:"
But from the
beginning of the creation, God 'made them male and female.' 'For this
reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his
wife, 'and the two shall become one flesh'; so then they are no longer
two, but one flesh.
The two as one is the pattern on how marriage was to be conducted
from the start. NOT three or four as one.
Hebrews 13:3-4:
“
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed
undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
God never condoned polygamy but like divorce he allowed it to occur
and did not bring an immediate punishment for this disobedience. Deut.
17:14-17: “
I will set a king over me like all the nations that are
around me,' “you shall surely set a king over you whom the LORD your God
chooses; one from among your brethren you shall set as king over you; you
may not set a foreigner over you, who is not your brother. But he shall
not multiply horses for himself, nor cause the people to return to Egypt
to multiply horses, for the LORD has said to you, 'You shall not return
that way again.' “Neither shall he multiply wives for himself,
lest his heart turn away; nor shall he greatly multiply silver and
gold for himself.” This is the command of God, and he has never changed it.
1 Kings 11:3 says Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines violating
the principle of monogamy that he was given through the law of Moses.
Consider that Solomon at one time was the wisest man in the world. In I
Kings 11:4: “
For it came to pass, when Solomon was old, that his wives
turned away his heart after other gods: and his heart was not
perfect with the LORD his God, as was the heart of David his father.”
Notice Solomon became a polytheist because he was influenced in polygamy.
In his case many wives, became many gods. Scripture has always commanded
monogamy (Ps.128:3; Prov. 5:18; 18:22; 19:14; 31:10-29; Eccl. 9:9).
The fact is that God never commanded polygamy or divorce. Scripture
says (Bible) He only permitted it because of the hardness of their hearts
(Deut. 24:1; Matt. 19:8). Matt. 5:31-32: “
Furthermore it has been said,
“Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.
But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except
sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever
marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”
God hates divorce as well as polygamy, since it destroys the
family (Mal. 2:16). Whatever the patriarchs or any Christian did wrong
does not change the fact the Bible condemns it.
There are some stipulations in the law that are connected to this
subject. Matt. 22:24: “
Teacher, Moses said that if a man dies, having
no children, his brother shall marry his wife and raise up offspring for
his brother.” This is based on the commandment found in Deut. 25:5-6: “
If
brothers dwell together, and one of them dies and has no son, the widow
of the dead man shall not be married to a stranger outside the family;
her husband's brother shall go in to her, take her as his wife, and
perform the duty of a husband's brother to her. “
And it shall be
that the firstborn son which she bears will succeed to the name of his
dead brother, that his name may not be blotted out of Israel. ”
Multiple wives was tolerated but never with God's approval. Jesus told
the Jews, "
Because of your hardness of heart, Moses permitted you to
divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way"
(Matthew 19:3-8). The Mosaic law aimed at mitigating, rather than
removing, evils that were inseparable from the state of society in that
day. Its enactments were directed to the discouragement of polygamy; to
prevent the injustice frequently consequent upon the exercise of the
rights of a father or a master; to bring divorce under some restriction;
and to enforce purity of life during the maintenance of the matrimonial
bond.
The Bible says adultery is not a choice, one does not have to acquire
another wife to solve his urges. Jesus said if you look upon another
woman with desire (married or not) it is adultery, a sin.
Paul insisted that a leader in the church should be “the husband of
one wife,” a deacon or elder must have
one wife... Titus 1:6.
The New Testament teaches that, “
Each man [should] have his own
wife, and let each woman have her own husband” (1 Cor. 7:2).
Monogamous marriage teaches us the type of the relation Christ has
between himself and His bride, the church (Eph. 5:31-32). The church is
called the bride, collectively as one (singular) each person is not a
bride, as in plurality of wives and marriages.
How many wives did Adam have in Gen.2:24? One, God did not take two
wives out from his side. Monogamy has always been God's standard for the
human race. From the very beginning God set the pattern by creating a
monogamous marriage relationship -one man and one woman, Adam and Eve
(Gen. 1:27; 2:21-25). It cannot be interpreted he became one with “each
wife”;
then this would mean he would be a husband to each,
committing adultery. God certainly could have made two or more wives for
Adam, this would have endorse the idea of polygamy, but he made only one.
The Bible clearly and decidedly states that God does not condone or
allow the practice of polygamy over and over again.
.....some excerpts from " let us reason " .............